I have been thinking about this post in my blog all week!!! I am not even sure how to start it or where to begin. I guess I will start with saying how grateful I am to have a mom who has sacrificed so much and encouraged my brother and I to do our best for 37 years! Now that I am a mom I have so much more appreciation for the hard work, dedication, lack of sleep and selflessness it takes to be a mom!!! We are blessed to be able to call you mom, and now for Josiah and baby Sandler to have you as their Grammie!
Ever since I was a little girl, as early as me playing with dolls, I knew I wanted to be a mommy!!! I wanted to have the opportunity to have a little child to take care of and love. Wow...being a mom is so much more than that, but what a blessing it is every single day - even the hard days!!! I am so thankful that the Lord had Josh in His master plan for me to marry. I am so blessed to be parenting along side of him - he is absolutely an amazing husband and father and I am in awe everyday when I see him interact with Josiah!!! I wouldn't want to take this journey with anyone else...and I must add that I think he is pretty cute, too and I am glad Josiah mostly has his looks...lets face it: he looks just like him :) I am going to go ahead and guess that the child coming late June/ early July will also have those Sandler genes...so excited!!
If I was asked at the age of 18 how many children I thought I would have by age 33 I would have definitely thought more than one (with one on the way). I have always loved kids...starting with my dolls, then the children I babysat for years and then the ones I taught as an Elementary teacher. I know that the Lord knows best and His will is perfect and I can honestly say that I am so grateful for His timing!! I have had the best opportunities (being a military wife) to have met SO many amazing moms, who are my closest friends, along the way...ones who I have had the chance to watch and learn from. I hope I can be half the mother they are!! I love how we can call each other up, no matter where we all live, and just ask questions and encourage one another through the best and most important job we will ever have! I am so glad that the Lord's plan was for us to have Josiah when we did and even more so to have the one on one time with him that we have gotten. If it were in my hands we would have had another one by now, closer in age to Josiah, but I now know and realize how grateful I am for this time that we have had together.
On this Mother's Day I am blessed to be a mommy to such an amazing little boy, who loves others, legos, playing outside and his toys! He is full of energy and always keeps me on my toes...which I am grateful for! But, I also realize that Mother's Day can be a difficult day for some. I realize this more than ever before! I NEVER thought that this day could be a sad day for women, but I now know it definitely is!! I am so glad that the Lord has allowed Josh and I to have had the path to parenthood that we have. The joys, the struggles, the why's, everything! I have had a heavy heart all week for friends I know struggling to get pregnant, dealing with miscarriage and the uncertainty of not knowing if they will be able to. This past Friday, May 10th, was a year since I had my third (out of 4) miscarriage (and my fist D and C). I know for a fact the Lord was with me that day more than I have ever felt before. We were very new to this area, just had my first doctors appointment where we found out at 10 weeks the baby didn't have a heartbeat and I would be going into my first surgery. I was blessed with the most amazing nurse who was extremely encouraging and sympathetic...and who even stayed after her shift was over to be with me to make sure I came out of surgery ok. We didn't know anyone here yet, so Josh had to be with Josiah, but I honestly never felt alone!!! What a relief! So, if you are one of my friends who is experiencing these difficulties please know that I think about you often. I pray for you - even if I don't know you are having issues. I pray for women all over who have the desire to be a mother, but it hasn't been the right time yet! May I encourage you to use this time to grow in your faith and trust in the ONE who makes life happen. And, know that if you ever need to talk to someone about it....I am always here!!! It isn't easy and I am sure this day is more difficult than other days for you!! You are loved and prayed for!!! May the Lord, who is the giver of Peace and Hope , give you PEACE and HOPE everyday, but specifically this day!!!
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Sunday, January 27, 2013
Sharing the News and Why it was a little Difficult for me...(and a quick explanation of my treatment)
Last night we finally announced that we are expecting again and due July 1. I never expected it to be as hard as it was. Let me explain. We kept the news a secret from our family until I was 13 weeks along and we just announced to everyone else at 18 weeks. I honestly feel like I have been pregnant for 40 weeks and should be delivering soon...not because I feel badly or anything, but because I have been monitored so closely and I have had more ultrasounds than a normal full term pregnancy would even have all by 13 weeks. Again, we are beyond grateful for where we are at this point, that everything seems to be going smoothly and that our dream of having another child is on the road to coming true! There are two reasons why it was difficult for me to announce our exciting news and I cried after we posted it while talking to Josh about everything.
The first reason it was hard to finally share the news is because we have experienced four miscarriages in a little over 2 years. Some of those pregnancies we announced and very soon after our announcement we had to share the bad news that the baby didn't make it. While I feel completely at peace about this pregnancy and have full confidence in the Lord and His will, I couldn't help but think about all of the times after people being excited for us, we then had to share the emotional and devastating news that we lost the baby. I don't feel like that will happen this time and our doctor says that everything looks and sounds great, but in the back of my mind I think about the heartbreak of losing our other children. (funny - maybe not so funny and ironic side note: every time we go to the doctor we get put back into the same room we were placed in in May - 2 days after my birthday and a few days before Mother's Day- when we found out I would be having surgery three days later because our baby had no heartbeat. Josh and I just look at each other every time we get put into that room and and say "I hate this room." - I feel like it is just a reminder to me from the Lord...Him asking me "are you going to Trust Me or are you going to give into the doubt of this particular room?")
Secondly, I hesitated to post it because my heart truly aches for those that are in similar situations as we have been! I know there are women/couples out there that are trying, have tried, currently trying, having difficulties and even suffering the heartache of a miscarriage! Any friend who has posted that they are expecting, I have very much been excited for them and their growing family!!! I never wish miscarriage, infertility or complications on anyone!! But I also know after you read an announcement, see pictures, etc there is a piece of your heart that cries. There is a thought in your brain that asks why...a desire for that to be you...maybe even you thinking about their due date and wondering if they are due when you were supposed to be welcoming your bundle of joy into your own family. Don't get me wrong...I absolutely love seeing friends excited about their own pregnancies!! Until you have experienced the loss a miscarriage brings and the piece of your heart that will always be in Heaven with the baby you never got to hold, you won't be able to understand...and I pray that the women and couples who haven't had to deal with that never have to!!! So, if this is you...let me say I am SORRY and I understand!!! Don't give up and trust in the One who makes life happen in the first place!!!! As hard as it was and has been, I have zero regret or anger for anything we have been through. It truly has shaped me into the person I am today and I will always pray that it continues to mold me and have a heart for those that deal with this kind of loss!!!
All in all, after announcing, and crying while explaining to Josh why it was so hard...I never had to explain - he totally knew and I love him for that! I am blessed to even have him in my life...let alone be married to such an incredible man...I am glad we did it! I am glad that all of our family and friends know now and can rejoice in this incredible answer to so many prayers!!! So, thank you!!!
A quick overview to this point (quick because my eyes hurt from being on the computer and because I don't want to bore you with details)....Since seeing my infertility/endo doctor starting in July 2012, they did a lot more tests (didn't even know there more I could even have done with what we had done already), was put on several different medications for different reasons, had a surgery involving two procedures and probably some other stuff I am forgetting. I did get pregnant along that way, but lost the baby early on. After reevaluating things with my doctor and explaining my concerns that I didn't have trouble getting pregnant, I had trouble staying pregnant I was happy that he was open and willing to do a little more research with my medical history. Overall I am healthy, but in college was diagnosed with alopecia areota, which is an autoimmune disease that makes you body think your hair is a foreign object...in turn making you lose your hair. Some cases are worse than others. Mine was probably a medium case. I did lose a lot of hair including my eyelashes in college, but had a wonderful doctor who was proactive and I was able to recover from that. Some people lose all of the hair on their bodies. I have had a few flare ups here and there, but nothing for about 4 years. My infertility/endo doctor said that autoimmune diseases can be finicky sometimes and can flare up in different ways. What we think, but there is no way of knowing 100%, is that my body thought the babies I have gotten pregnant with have been foreign objects and around 6-9 weeks my body would win the battle and take the life of the baby. So, what my treatment ended up being was an IV treatment called Intralipids. This is what they use for patients who have transplants of many sorts. The patient will get three different, 2 hr long IV treatments to counteract your body from killing off what is not foreign in your body. That is what they used on me. I went in at the time of ovulation for my first, and then if I ended up pregnant (which I did for my first round of this), I went back every 30 days for two more treatments...which got to me almost 12 weeks pregnant. Apparently my body reacted well to this and the Intralipids was what I needed to sustain the pregnancy past 9 weeks (which was the latest I had lost one of the pregnancies before). We will never know if this was truly what worked, but I am grateful that I could talk to my doctor and tell him that I didn't need the "cocktail of medication" to get pregnant...I needed something to keep me pregnant! That is a somewhat quick version of the last months of my time with my specialist. Now I am back with a regular OB who thinks we are on a positive and great road to welcoming Josiah's baby brother or sister this summer :)
The first reason it was hard to finally share the news is because we have experienced four miscarriages in a little over 2 years. Some of those pregnancies we announced and very soon after our announcement we had to share the bad news that the baby didn't make it. While I feel completely at peace about this pregnancy and have full confidence in the Lord and His will, I couldn't help but think about all of the times after people being excited for us, we then had to share the emotional and devastating news that we lost the baby. I don't feel like that will happen this time and our doctor says that everything looks and sounds great, but in the back of my mind I think about the heartbreak of losing our other children. (funny - maybe not so funny and ironic side note: every time we go to the doctor we get put back into the same room we were placed in in May - 2 days after my birthday and a few days before Mother's Day- when we found out I would be having surgery three days later because our baby had no heartbeat. Josh and I just look at each other every time we get put into that room and and say "I hate this room." - I feel like it is just a reminder to me from the Lord...Him asking me "are you going to Trust Me or are you going to give into the doubt of this particular room?")
Secondly, I hesitated to post it because my heart truly aches for those that are in similar situations as we have been! I know there are women/couples out there that are trying, have tried, currently trying, having difficulties and even suffering the heartache of a miscarriage! Any friend who has posted that they are expecting, I have very much been excited for them and their growing family!!! I never wish miscarriage, infertility or complications on anyone!! But I also know after you read an announcement, see pictures, etc there is a piece of your heart that cries. There is a thought in your brain that asks why...a desire for that to be you...maybe even you thinking about their due date and wondering if they are due when you were supposed to be welcoming your bundle of joy into your own family. Don't get me wrong...I absolutely love seeing friends excited about their own pregnancies!! Until you have experienced the loss a miscarriage brings and the piece of your heart that will always be in Heaven with the baby you never got to hold, you won't be able to understand...and I pray that the women and couples who haven't had to deal with that never have to!!! So, if this is you...let me say I am SORRY and I understand!!! Don't give up and trust in the One who makes life happen in the first place!!!! As hard as it was and has been, I have zero regret or anger for anything we have been through. It truly has shaped me into the person I am today and I will always pray that it continues to mold me and have a heart for those that deal with this kind of loss!!!
All in all, after announcing, and crying while explaining to Josh why it was so hard...I never had to explain - he totally knew and I love him for that! I am blessed to even have him in my life...let alone be married to such an incredible man...I am glad we did it! I am glad that all of our family and friends know now and can rejoice in this incredible answer to so many prayers!!! So, thank you!!!
A quick overview to this point (quick because my eyes hurt from being on the computer and because I don't want to bore you with details)....Since seeing my infertility/endo doctor starting in July 2012, they did a lot more tests (didn't even know there more I could even have done with what we had done already), was put on several different medications for different reasons, had a surgery involving two procedures and probably some other stuff I am forgetting. I did get pregnant along that way, but lost the baby early on. After reevaluating things with my doctor and explaining my concerns that I didn't have trouble getting pregnant, I had trouble staying pregnant I was happy that he was open and willing to do a little more research with my medical history. Overall I am healthy, but in college was diagnosed with alopecia areota, which is an autoimmune disease that makes you body think your hair is a foreign object...in turn making you lose your hair. Some cases are worse than others. Mine was probably a medium case. I did lose a lot of hair including my eyelashes in college, but had a wonderful doctor who was proactive and I was able to recover from that. Some people lose all of the hair on their bodies. I have had a few flare ups here and there, but nothing for about 4 years. My infertility/endo doctor said that autoimmune diseases can be finicky sometimes and can flare up in different ways. What we think, but there is no way of knowing 100%, is that my body thought the babies I have gotten pregnant with have been foreign objects and around 6-9 weeks my body would win the battle and take the life of the baby. So, what my treatment ended up being was an IV treatment called Intralipids. This is what they use for patients who have transplants of many sorts. The patient will get three different, 2 hr long IV treatments to counteract your body from killing off what is not foreign in your body. That is what they used on me. I went in at the time of ovulation for my first, and then if I ended up pregnant (which I did for my first round of this), I went back every 30 days for two more treatments...which got to me almost 12 weeks pregnant. Apparently my body reacted well to this and the Intralipids was what I needed to sustain the pregnancy past 9 weeks (which was the latest I had lost one of the pregnancies before). We will never know if this was truly what worked, but I am grateful that I could talk to my doctor and tell him that I didn't need the "cocktail of medication" to get pregnant...I needed something to keep me pregnant! That is a somewhat quick version of the last months of my time with my specialist. Now I am back with a regular OB who thinks we are on a positive and great road to welcoming Josiah's baby brother or sister this summer :)
"Lord, I Need You" - Chris Tomlin
I am writing this post in my blog before we have announced our pregnancy because I wanted to remember what the Lord is teaching me through all of this. We are so grateful to be expecting again and to have made it to 15 weeks 5 days (at this point). I can promise you that not a day goes by that I don't thank God for that!! Up until 13 weeks I had been monitored very closely by my doctors, going about every 10 days (never more than 12 days) and having 7 ultrasounds. My last appointment was December 26th and my next appointment isn't until January 25th. I know that isn't that long, but when you go about every 10 days, four weeks is a long time to go without hearing the heartbeat and being reassured about things. This has been a huge test of who my faith and trust is in. At my last appointment on December 26th, my doctor told me that if I ever felt nervous and wanted to come in, to call and he would see me, but he felt confident that I could go on a regular OB schedule of every 4 weeks at this point. I am at the 2 week 3 day mark and I can't believe I have 2 more weeks to go. It has felt like an eternity and I have been nervous every day. I wake up in the night and just pray that the Lord would give me a peace and I continue that prayer throughout the day. I know for a fact that the doubt that I am feeling is from Satan. Satan knows what our weaknesses are and how to place doubt in our lives. For the past couple of days I have asked Josh more than once, "should I call and make an appointment?" His response was always super supportive of whatever I felt like I needed to do to have a peace of mind. He also reminded me that after hearing the heartbeat, I would be fine for a few days and then get nervous again...so true. He knows me too well and I am blessed to have him and his wisdom in my life. After several days of prayer I have determined that I need this time to learn and grow and to continue to place my trust in the only One who has control over any of this. It is easy for me to say "well I am nervous so I am just going to go hear the heartbeat to put my mind at ease," but what I know I need to do is be on my knees about this and TRUST in the One who made this baby! I feel like going to the doctor before my scheduled appointment would be giving into the doubt that Satan placed in my mind instead of telling Satan "to get ye behind me Satan..you will not prevail." Although this entire process is hard I am grateful to the Lord for taking me through this journey to teach me things I really need to learn. I honestly can say that no other experience in my life has made me grow spiritually like this has! I have learned that no matter what our Creator is the one in control. You can do everything right by the books, and something could go wrong with your pregnancy or you could not follow one pregnancy rule and end up having a healthy pregnancy.
So with all of that said, I am so glad Josh randomly came home today with a song for me to hear. It is exactly what I needed and Josh didn't even know it. I was crying while listening to it three times just because it was what I needed to hear. "Lord, I need you every hour."
So with all of that said, I am so glad Josh randomly came home today with a song for me to hear. It is exactly what I needed and Josh didn't even know it. I was crying while listening to it three times just because it was what I needed to hear. "Lord, I need you every hour."
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Josiah's 4th Birthday Party
I love birthdays!! I love to celebrate the one day a year that is set aside for one special person in your life, whoever it may be!!! My parents always had a celebration for my brother and me on our birthdays growing up and it made me feel special...which is why I always have fun planning Josiah's birthday. Kids birthday parties are so fun!!! Probably about 3 months or so before his birthday, we started talking about what theme he would like to have and looked online and in magazines to find a theme. He really would have loved to have had a Peter Pan party, but since the movie is not released at the time from Disney it is almost impossible to find anything Peter Pan. He really LOVES pirates, but neither one of us was a fan of the skull and cross bone party stuff. That is when we found party items for Jake and the Neverland Pirates (a show in the Disney Channel). Peter Pan has made guest appearances on the show over the last year, so Josiah was super excited to have Jake as his birthday party theme. After looking on Pinterest (best ever place to get party ideas) I started planning. I knew I wanted to make a cake, I wanted to have games for the kids because he is at the age where playing party games is possible/fun and I wanted him to remember this special day!!! My list making had begun.
I wanted to save as much money as possible, because we all know birthday parties add up. I started with making our own Pin the Patch on the Pirate Game. I printed a coloring sheet off of DisneyJunior.com and took it to Staples and go it enlarged to a 16x20 size. I colored Jake the Pirate and cut little patches (ovals) out of card stock. Each child had a patch with his/her name on it. I took the colored pirate and patches back to Staples to get them all laminated. I knew I also wanted the kids to be able to make a treasure chest of some kind so I went to AC Moore, Jo Ann Fabric and Hobby Lobby to look at our options. Since we had children coming to the party ranging from age 10 months to 12 years old, I knew I had to have something that work for them all (or at least most of them). While looking online I found some papier-mache chests that I decided would be perfect and way, way cheaper than buying the wooden ones I was going to buy at Hobby Lobby. If we ended up doing the wooden ones I was going to have the kids all paint theirs, which in the end would have been one big mess and I would have had to have a lot more supplies. I ended up spray painting the papier-mache ones gold and getting jewel stickers for each child to decorate their chest. That worked out so much better than my original plan and I am so glad that it did. We also had a pirate ship pinata that was a hit and I bought a bag of gold coins for the kids to go on their own treasure hunt.
The week of his birthday party I kept checking the weather, since we were planning to have the party at the park. One day it would say 10% chance of rain, the next it would be 0% chance and then 20%. So by Wednesday I decided it would be best to reserve our apartment clubhouse...so glad it was available because by Friday the forecast for Saturday was 100% chance and it definitely rained!!! Regardless of the rain, I think the party couldn't have gone better. The room was big enough for everyone invited and the kids seemed to have a great time...and since it was in one room that meant the kids were confined to one area versus having to yell all over the park to get them to do a game or lunch.
After a late night Friday night (actually early Saturday morning at 2am), my mom and I got a few hours of sleep before getting up to finish the final touches to food. We had everything packed in boxes and drove over to the clubhouse to set up. I couldn't have done it without my mom! She made another awesome veggie tray (she has made one for all 4 of his birthday parties) and she ended up making the fruit salad that I was planning on doing but took extra long making and decorating the cakes. She also did so many more things that helped us both to be able to even go to bed that night!!! Setting up the clubhouse went smoothly with my mom putting the food out, my dad and Josiah hiding the gold coins, Josh going to pick up the subs from our local grocery store and I decorated the rest.
When the kids arrived they were able to pick up their pirate gear all labeled with their names on each (that is the teacher in me)...a hook, a telescope, an eye patch, and their choice of a colored bandana. (there were 12 kids, there were 12 different colored bandanas so each pirate could have their favorite color and look unique). The kids played and mingled for a little while until most of them had arrived. I allowed them to begin decorating their treasure chests with the jewel stickers (and each chest had a surprise of one piece of gold in it). After everyone was finished decorating we set them out to search for gold. My dad and Josiah really did a great job with the space we had hiding 150 pieces of gold...some in easy places for the little ones, and some a little more difficult for the older kids. I think they had a lot of fun searching for gold and being able to take it all home in their treasure chests.
After allowing them to play for a little while, we then went on to doing the Pin the Patch on the Pirate Game. We covered all of their eyes with a pirate sash, but for the kids over the age of 5 we also spun them a few times to make it fair! The winner of this game won a foam sword! After this game we went on to having lunch. We had subs with all of the fixings from the local grocery store that were absolutely amazing (I want to buy a tray just to have our lunches made for a week at home...they were that good), a veggie tray, fruit salad, chips, gold fish, peanut butter & jelly sandwiches for kids who don't eat subs, and drinks. After everyone ate lunch we moved onto the pinata...which of course brought lots of excitement from the kids. We had the kids line up on a line and each child was given a little gift bag with his/her name on it. Each kid got to take a few swings at the pinata on their turn. (We eventually went from a foam bat to a wooden one...glad we had both with us). The pinata was finally busted and the kids went diving for the goodies inside! The child who busted open the pinata also got a foam sword to take home!
Then we moved on to cake. Josiah asked for a chocolate cake. I had made a pirate ship cake (chocolate) and a treasure chest cake (vanilla pound cake and I got the idea from pinterest). For my first time really decorating a cake by hand and by scratch it turned out pretty well. Josiah loved it and that is all that counts! They didn't turn out as bad as I thought they would, but not as good as I had hoped! Let's face it...I am no Cake Boss and never plan on opening my own cake shop! At 1:30am Saturday morning, I told my mom to remind me to never do that again, but to be completely honest I am sure I will do it again next year. He is worth it and making the cake is fun for the most part.
Opening gifts was the last thing we did. Josiah was so excited to have all of his little friends there and it cracks me up that at every kid party you go to the kids all start off sitting down while the child opens his/her gifts and then by gift #2 or 3 they are swarming around the birthday child to see what they got. Luckily I was able to remember each gift and who it came from in order to write correct thank you notes!!!
All in all the party went great and smooth!!! Each child went home with some pirate gear as well as a small goodie bad and a homemade coloring book I made out of coloring sheets from the Disney website. Josiah had a blast and was so excited about turning four! I can't believe he is four already!!! I am so grateful for that little boy....we love him more than we ever could have imagined. He brings so much joy to our family and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank God for entrusting us with him!!!! He truly is a blessing!!! And, the next day he asks, "Mommy, can I have another birthday tomorrow because that was fun??!!!" Him saying that made all of the hard work of planning and late night of decorating completely worth it!!! His smile was priceless!!!!
The week of his birthday party I kept checking the weather, since we were planning to have the party at the park. One day it would say 10% chance of rain, the next it would be 0% chance and then 20%. So by Wednesday I decided it would be best to reserve our apartment clubhouse...so glad it was available because by Friday the forecast for Saturday was 100% chance and it definitely rained!!! Regardless of the rain, I think the party couldn't have gone better. The room was big enough for everyone invited and the kids seemed to have a great time...and since it was in one room that meant the kids were confined to one area versus having to yell all over the park to get them to do a game or lunch.
After a late night Friday night (actually early Saturday morning at 2am), my mom and I got a few hours of sleep before getting up to finish the final touches to food. We had everything packed in boxes and drove over to the clubhouse to set up. I couldn't have done it without my mom! She made another awesome veggie tray (she has made one for all 4 of his birthday parties) and she ended up making the fruit salad that I was planning on doing but took extra long making and decorating the cakes. She also did so many more things that helped us both to be able to even go to bed that night!!! Setting up the clubhouse went smoothly with my mom putting the food out, my dad and Josiah hiding the gold coins, Josh going to pick up the subs from our local grocery store and I decorated the rest.
When the kids arrived they were able to pick up their pirate gear all labeled with their names on each (that is the teacher in me)...a hook, a telescope, an eye patch, and their choice of a colored bandana. (there were 12 kids, there were 12 different colored bandanas so each pirate could have their favorite color and look unique). The kids played and mingled for a little while until most of them had arrived. I allowed them to begin decorating their treasure chests with the jewel stickers (and each chest had a surprise of one piece of gold in it). After everyone was finished decorating we set them out to search for gold. My dad and Josiah really did a great job with the space we had hiding 150 pieces of gold...some in easy places for the little ones, and some a little more difficult for the older kids. I think they had a lot of fun searching for gold and being able to take it all home in their treasure chests. 
After allowing them to play for a little while, we then went on to doing the Pin the Patch on the Pirate Game. We covered all of their eyes with a pirate sash, but for the kids over the age of 5 we also spun them a few times to make it fair! The winner of this game won a foam sword! After this game we went on to having lunch. We had subs with all of the fixings from the local grocery store that were absolutely amazing (I want to buy a tray just to have our lunches made for a week at home...they were that good), a veggie tray, fruit salad, chips, gold fish, peanut butter & jelly sandwiches for kids who don't eat subs, and drinks. After everyone ate lunch we moved onto the pinata...which of course brought lots of excitement from the kids. We had the kids line up on a line and each child was given a little gift bag with his/her name on it. Each kid got to take a few swings at the pinata on their turn. (We eventually went from a foam bat to a wooden one...glad we had both with us). The pinata was finally busted and the kids went diving for the goodies inside! The child who busted open the pinata also got a foam sword to take home!
Opening gifts was the last thing we did. Josiah was so excited to have all of his little friends there and it cracks me up that at every kid party you go to the kids all start off sitting down while the child opens his/her gifts and then by gift #2 or 3 they are swarming around the birthday child to see what they got. Luckily I was able to remember each gift and who it came from in order to write correct thank you notes!!!
Sunday, September 2, 2012
"A Teacher is Always Silent During a Test"
First of all, for those that read and care, I am sorry for such a big gap between blogs. I always think of something to blog about but then don't get around to it for a few days and by that time I forget most of it and move on to whatever else I was doing instead of blogging. Hopefully I am not the only one this happens to.
I love reading Karen Kinsgbury books. If you aren't familiar with her, she is a Christian Non-Fiction author and she is definitely one of my top two favorite authors. I love how she can write a non-fiction book and still include Biblical truths and realistic circumstances that go along with those truths. I love that I don't feel like I am reading trash and I am getting something spiritual out of what I am reading! I am in the process of reading the last book in her "Bailey Flannigan Series," and something that I read last night really has stuck with me. A quick synopsis of what was happening in the book: One of the main characters had recently become a Believer and during his growth in the Lord he asked God to test him so that he could become a stronger Christian, relying completely on God and not himself. As he was sharing this bit of information with another character in the book, he told her this "A teacher is almost always silent during a test." Then the book goes on to read "That was definitely true for what God was teaching him now. How he had to have complete dependence on the Lord in order to pursue what he was after." Wow - this hit me and as I continued to read and then later ponder over that statement I was just taken back. I even was talking to Josh at midnight in bed (after he had worked all day on school work...poor guy had to listen to me chatting away) about what I read. He also thought that it was very true. Sometimes when the Lord is testing us to grow us, He is silent....allowing us to grow and rely solely on Him and put our complete trust in him. Not sure if what I read hit me even more because I was a teacher (and still am to a point for Josiah) and how when I would give tests to my students I would remain silent (yet always stay in the room/present)...allowing them the opportunity to focus and concentrate! I would also remain silent when they would come to me asking me to pretty much give them the answer (gotta love students). I wanted them to learn, wanted them to trust in what they already knew and I didn't want to interfere with their learning process. I feel like this is so true when it comes to the Lord being our "teacher." Sometimes He remains silent, especially during a test, so that we can completely have faith in Him, so that we try harder to hear Him instead of just having every answer right away, and so that we can trust!
I am so grateful for the tests that the Lord gives us. I wouldn't being growing and learning without them...and I want to be able to teach others, particularly Josiah and any other children we may have, what the Lord has taught me through tests and challenges. Many of you know (especially if you read my blog) about the challenges we have had with having more children. I definitely feel like these challenges have been a test for me and our relationship. In the past year and a half or so we have conceived 4 times and miscarried each one...with our most recent miscarriage being 2 weeks ago. Ask any woman that has had a miscarriage and they will tell you that it is hard and something that no one can truly understand unless they have experienced one themselves. As much as we (Josh and I) would love holding each one of those babies right now in our arms, I have to say that we also appreciate the Lord for all He has taught us through it. Of course it is sad and sometimes frustrating because of the not knowing why, but I am happy to say that I have never gotten mad at God for it and never thought that I don't deserve this or anything. There are a handful of people who knew about our most recent miscarriage...and two of those people told me not to give up. I have never once felt like giving up, I have never questioned whether or not the Lord loved me...I know that He does and I know HIS will is perfect for our lives...even the hard times. I can honestly say that the infertility issues we have had over the last year and a half or two have definitely deepened my faith in the Lord and have almost made me have to trust Him more...especially since the doctors can't give us any answers as to why either. I feel like as a Christian I have needed something to strengthen my faith in Him....to be able to let go of things I have zero control over and let Him be the Ruler and Maker that He is meant to be in every one's life and to strengthen my prayer life. This has also brought Josh and I even closer than we were before. We have been through this entire miscarriage and desire to grow our family journey together...every step of the way and we will continue to go through it together. It is so neat to me to see how we have each had our weak moments at different times and I know the Lord allowed it to happen that way so that the other one could be strong, encouraging and supportive for the one who is feeling low. I know and fully trust that God will grow our family (maybe even more than we want all at once..ha ha)! I have faith that He will and can...even if that means it isn't biologically ours! We are praying and seeking what He would have us do. So that leads me to the quick story of what my next step is medically....(And I have even struggled with wondering how far medically we should take this)
My doctor here has done just about everything he can do at this point and so in the next two weeks I am going in for an exploratory surgery to see if there is more to what is going on than what blood work, ultrasounds and tests have/have not shown. I will have a laparoscopy, hysteroctomy and ovarian acupuncture done. We are praying and really hoping that this will be scheduled around Josh's class schedule and if not, we will make it work. The doctor wants to do it ASAP, but doesn't do surgeries on Friday's, which is the only day Josh doesn't have class (most Friday's). It is kind of funny to me that the only surgery prior to turning 32 that I ever had was getting my wisdom teeth removed at the age of 18 and since turning 32 in May I will have had 2 surgeries! I guess I am falling apart, despite feeling better and being in better shape than I was when I was 22! We are praying for some answers, but even if the surgery doesn't show anything (fibroids, endometriosis, ovarian cysts, etc), we will have answers. We will have always wondered if there was something more, and without the surgery we wouldn't know.
Back to the title of my blog entry "A Teacher is Always Silent During a Test..." Thank you, Lord for allowing growth while sometimes staying silent, yet always present!!!
I love reading Karen Kinsgbury books. If you aren't familiar with her, she is a Christian Non-Fiction author and she is definitely one of my top two favorite authors. I love how she can write a non-fiction book and still include Biblical truths and realistic circumstances that go along with those truths. I love that I don't feel like I am reading trash and I am getting something spiritual out of what I am reading! I am in the process of reading the last book in her "Bailey Flannigan Series," and something that I read last night really has stuck with me. A quick synopsis of what was happening in the book: One of the main characters had recently become a Believer and during his growth in the Lord he asked God to test him so that he could become a stronger Christian, relying completely on God and not himself. As he was sharing this bit of information with another character in the book, he told her this "A teacher is almost always silent during a test." Then the book goes on to read "That was definitely true for what God was teaching him now. How he had to have complete dependence on the Lord in order to pursue what he was after." Wow - this hit me and as I continued to read and then later ponder over that statement I was just taken back. I even was talking to Josh at midnight in bed (after he had worked all day on school work...poor guy had to listen to me chatting away) about what I read. He also thought that it was very true. Sometimes when the Lord is testing us to grow us, He is silent....allowing us to grow and rely solely on Him and put our complete trust in him. Not sure if what I read hit me even more because I was a teacher (and still am to a point for Josiah) and how when I would give tests to my students I would remain silent (yet always stay in the room/present)...allowing them the opportunity to focus and concentrate! I would also remain silent when they would come to me asking me to pretty much give them the answer (gotta love students). I wanted them to learn, wanted them to trust in what they already knew and I didn't want to interfere with their learning process. I feel like this is so true when it comes to the Lord being our "teacher." Sometimes He remains silent, especially during a test, so that we can completely have faith in Him, so that we try harder to hear Him instead of just having every answer right away, and so that we can trust!
I am so grateful for the tests that the Lord gives us. I wouldn't being growing and learning without them...and I want to be able to teach others, particularly Josiah and any other children we may have, what the Lord has taught me through tests and challenges. Many of you know (especially if you read my blog) about the challenges we have had with having more children. I definitely feel like these challenges have been a test for me and our relationship. In the past year and a half or so we have conceived 4 times and miscarried each one...with our most recent miscarriage being 2 weeks ago. Ask any woman that has had a miscarriage and they will tell you that it is hard and something that no one can truly understand unless they have experienced one themselves. As much as we (Josh and I) would love holding each one of those babies right now in our arms, I have to say that we also appreciate the Lord for all He has taught us through it. Of course it is sad and sometimes frustrating because of the not knowing why, but I am happy to say that I have never gotten mad at God for it and never thought that I don't deserve this or anything. There are a handful of people who knew about our most recent miscarriage...and two of those people told me not to give up. I have never once felt like giving up, I have never questioned whether or not the Lord loved me...I know that He does and I know HIS will is perfect for our lives...even the hard times. I can honestly say that the infertility issues we have had over the last year and a half or two have definitely deepened my faith in the Lord and have almost made me have to trust Him more...especially since the doctors can't give us any answers as to why either. I feel like as a Christian I have needed something to strengthen my faith in Him....to be able to let go of things I have zero control over and let Him be the Ruler and Maker that He is meant to be in every one's life and to strengthen my prayer life. This has also brought Josh and I even closer than we were before. We have been through this entire miscarriage and desire to grow our family journey together...every step of the way and we will continue to go through it together. It is so neat to me to see how we have each had our weak moments at different times and I know the Lord allowed it to happen that way so that the other one could be strong, encouraging and supportive for the one who is feeling low. I know and fully trust that God will grow our family (maybe even more than we want all at once..ha ha)! I have faith that He will and can...even if that means it isn't biologically ours! We are praying and seeking what He would have us do. So that leads me to the quick story of what my next step is medically....(And I have even struggled with wondering how far medically we should take this)
My doctor here has done just about everything he can do at this point and so in the next two weeks I am going in for an exploratory surgery to see if there is more to what is going on than what blood work, ultrasounds and tests have/have not shown. I will have a laparoscopy, hysteroctomy and ovarian acupuncture done. We are praying and really hoping that this will be scheduled around Josh's class schedule and if not, we will make it work. The doctor wants to do it ASAP, but doesn't do surgeries on Friday's, which is the only day Josh doesn't have class (most Friday's). It is kind of funny to me that the only surgery prior to turning 32 that I ever had was getting my wisdom teeth removed at the age of 18 and since turning 32 in May I will have had 2 surgeries! I guess I am falling apart, despite feeling better and being in better shape than I was when I was 22! We are praying for some answers, but even if the surgery doesn't show anything (fibroids, endometriosis, ovarian cysts, etc), we will have answers. We will have always wondered if there was something more, and without the surgery we wouldn't know.
Back to the title of my blog entry "A Teacher is Always Silent During a Test..." Thank you, Lord for allowing growth while sometimes staying silent, yet always present!!!
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
Such a blessing
I know every parent is super proud of their child/children!! I know we all think of our children as special, which we totally should! They are special...they are a blessing from the Lord. It seems like I realize how much of a true blessing Josiah is as time goes on and he gets bigger and learns more things. Also, as I learn about other's who have experienced loss in their lives, as well as our own difficulties with maintaining a pregnancy!!
I feel like Josiah is at such a fun age! I am having so much fun with him playing, teaching, training and just talking with him. I think it is so cool that I can have a full out conversation with him and he totally understands what I am saying. I love the things that he says that only Josh and I would understand what he means...for example, since moving here we have to check the weather before we get dressed because you never know if it is going to be cool or hot out. So, when he asks about his clothing for the day he always asks "can I wear a sleeve shirt that doesn't pull down? or do I have to wear a sleeve shirt that pulls down?" Which translated means: "can I wear a short sleeve shirt or do I have to wear a long sleeved shirt?" He has other cute things that he says, but I won't fill the blog with those...at least not this blog. Maybe I can make one just for those.
Josh and I feel so blessed with Josiah. We are SO thankful to the Lord for allowing us the opportunity to be his parents. He has done incredible with this move and that makes me so happy!! As a military family, and this being Josiah's first move that he realizes, I was kind of nervous about how he would adjust. So many things have changed in his life. We went from a place where we had lots of friends and we had a routine of things we did each week to make sure we made time to establish lasting relationships with those people, we had a home with lots of room, a yard and a neighborhood where we knew all of our neighbors and Josh had his normal job routine with similar times each day that he would leave and come home. At three years old, he has adjusted so well to the big change. We are slowly meeting people and hopefully he will start to get some lasting relationships with friends here (I can sometimes be completely content with being at home all day doing our thing, but I realize how important it is to establish healthy friendships for both of us so we are getting out and about), we are totally content with the smaller living space we have and I actually enjoy the fact that it takes me no time to clean it and we are all adjusting to Josh's new school schedule and making it all work out! But, anyway, back to our "Blessing" (AKA...Josiah). We are just so proud of him and the flexibility he has had throughout the move. (I would maybe consider myself to be a "not so flexible person"...I like my little routine), but it totally helps that he is older and able to be off schedule here and there without it messing up our entire day.
Over the last several months Josh and I have noticed so much of how much his heart is being molded into a sweet and caring child. Of course, he is a child and there are times where discipline is needed, but we are just in awe of how much he has learned over the last year. (The day he turned three I wasn't so sure...LOL...that was a rough week/month or so of behavior issues - and there have been times here and there - sometimes longer than others that we have really had to discipline more than others.) As a parent that is hard, but we are totally seeing how the Lord is faithful and rewarding us with our commitment to raising our child in His way!!! We have witnessed his kind heart when being around others, asking if children are ok, sharing without being told or asked to and we can just see him thinking things out before he does something. He has also started asking a lot more questions about Jesus and the other day I had the news on and they were interviewing a Priest at a Catholic church about something and Josiah saw the cross with Jesus on it in the background. He immediately said "Mommy, that makes me sad to see Jesus on the cross. I wish he wasn't there." (I explained to him that Jesus isn't there anymore and the reason why he was there in the first place). It melted my heart to hear him say that and recognize the fact that it is sad to see Jesus on the cross!!! At the picnic we went to tonight neither one of us asked him to go up to this little boy who was playing alone, but he did and he handed the boy the bat and asked him if he wanted to play. When we got in the car to come home we told him how proud we were of him for his loving heart and good attitude and we asked him "do you know who else is SO proud of you?" His quick response was "JESUS...Jesus is proud of me."
I am so grateful for that little boy...and I am beyond grateful to the Lord for constantly being faithful! Sorry if this blog is a "Brag about Josiah Blog" but I just think it is important to be grateful for break-throughs in life...to be thankful for a time when disciplining/training pays off!! If you are a parent, I know you know what I am talking about!!!! I would listen or read your brag stories anytime...we have to rejoice with each other when our children learn important lessons in life!!!
I feel like Josiah is at such a fun age! I am having so much fun with him playing, teaching, training and just talking with him. I think it is so cool that I can have a full out conversation with him and he totally understands what I am saying. I love the things that he says that only Josh and I would understand what he means...for example, since moving here we have to check the weather before we get dressed because you never know if it is going to be cool or hot out. So, when he asks about his clothing for the day he always asks "can I wear a sleeve shirt that doesn't pull down? or do I have to wear a sleeve shirt that pulls down?" Which translated means: "can I wear a short sleeve shirt or do I have to wear a long sleeved shirt?" He has other cute things that he says, but I won't fill the blog with those...at least not this blog. Maybe I can make one just for those.
Josh and I feel so blessed with Josiah. We are SO thankful to the Lord for allowing us the opportunity to be his parents. He has done incredible with this move and that makes me so happy!! As a military family, and this being Josiah's first move that he realizes, I was kind of nervous about how he would adjust. So many things have changed in his life. We went from a place where we had lots of friends and we had a routine of things we did each week to make sure we made time to establish lasting relationships with those people, we had a home with lots of room, a yard and a neighborhood where we knew all of our neighbors and Josh had his normal job routine with similar times each day that he would leave and come home. At three years old, he has adjusted so well to the big change. We are slowly meeting people and hopefully he will start to get some lasting relationships with friends here (I can sometimes be completely content with being at home all day doing our thing, but I realize how important it is to establish healthy friendships for both of us so we are getting out and about), we are totally content with the smaller living space we have and I actually enjoy the fact that it takes me no time to clean it and we are all adjusting to Josh's new school schedule and making it all work out! But, anyway, back to our "Blessing" (AKA...Josiah). We are just so proud of him and the flexibility he has had throughout the move. (I would maybe consider myself to be a "not so flexible person"...I like my little routine), but it totally helps that he is older and able to be off schedule here and there without it messing up our entire day.
Over the last several months Josh and I have noticed so much of how much his heart is being molded into a sweet and caring child. Of course, he is a child and there are times where discipline is needed, but we are just in awe of how much he has learned over the last year. (The day he turned three I wasn't so sure...LOL...that was a rough week/month or so of behavior issues - and there have been times here and there - sometimes longer than others that we have really had to discipline more than others.) As a parent that is hard, but we are totally seeing how the Lord is faithful and rewarding us with our commitment to raising our child in His way!!! We have witnessed his kind heart when being around others, asking if children are ok, sharing without being told or asked to and we can just see him thinking things out before he does something. He has also started asking a lot more questions about Jesus and the other day I had the news on and they were interviewing a Priest at a Catholic church about something and Josiah saw the cross with Jesus on it in the background. He immediately said "Mommy, that makes me sad to see Jesus on the cross. I wish he wasn't there." (I explained to him that Jesus isn't there anymore and the reason why he was there in the first place). It melted my heart to hear him say that and recognize the fact that it is sad to see Jesus on the cross!!! At the picnic we went to tonight neither one of us asked him to go up to this little boy who was playing alone, but he did and he handed the boy the bat and asked him if he wanted to play. When we got in the car to come home we told him how proud we were of him for his loving heart and good attitude and we asked him "do you know who else is SO proud of you?" His quick response was "JESUS...Jesus is proud of me."
I am so grateful for that little boy...and I am beyond grateful to the Lord for constantly being faithful! Sorry if this blog is a "Brag about Josiah Blog" but I just think it is important to be grateful for break-throughs in life...to be thankful for a time when disciplining/training pays off!! If you are a parent, I know you know what I am talking about!!!! I would listen or read your brag stories anytime...we have to rejoice with each other when our children learn important lessons in life!!!
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Life in NY
We are adjusting to our new place in NY, but we all definitely miss TN!! I would have to say that TN is probably at the top of my list of favorite places we have lived. We loved Alaska, too, but for some reason I really connected with TN (by the way, still claim SC as my home though). I think maybe I enjoyed TN so much more than other places because we lived there for the longest, bought a house there (that we have rented out now and they better be taking care of it), Josh was physically there with us the longest (deployed for 12 months and gone just a few random months - nothing compared to his time gone in AK) and we have SO many sweet memories of Josiah there. I really struggled leaving TN...I cried my eyes out when we pulled out of our driveway for the last time and left that amazing town! We have so many friends still there and hope to get back there someday...if not to live, we will surely visit. I also got to be reunited with one of my closets friends, Pam, when they got stationed there a year after us. That was a blast having our kids together for 2 years and to watch them develop great relationships. I will always cherish TN for so many reasons.
We have been in NY for about 7 or 8 weeks (not really sure) and we are getting into a routine now. I feel like getting settled here has taken us longer than any other place we have lived. It could be because we have never moved with a 3 year old before! Ha ha...he has done great, but you can't just tell a 3 year old to go play by himself everyday while you unpack! It also could be from going down 800 sq. feet and trying to organize a smaller place to live in. Regardless of the reason, we are getting there. Just a few more things on the walls and organize the guest room before my parents visit in July. It shouldn't take long.
I have to say that I did not like it here when we first arrived. The weather was terrible (after leaving a warm and sunny TN) and I was probably a little hormonal and tired from being pregnant at the time. It was a hard adjustment for me and less than two weeks after we arrived we found out I was not carrying a healthy baby again. But I am happy to say that things are much better! The weather is beautiful now and we have gotten out to explore the area. We bought a family pass to the zoo and have gone there twice (the pass has already paid for itself - it was cheap). It is so fun to see Josiah get excited about the animals and he is so smart!! We want to encourage his learning and the zoo is different each time you go. The animals are doing different things and he loves it! It will be fun for us to go as a family or, like today, go while Josh is at school. We've also gone to the local library a few times...although, I have to say it is nothing in comparison to the Clarksville Library for sure!! He still enjoys checking out new books and playing the computer games there.
Apartment living has been totally fine. We were both apprehensive at first after living in a home with a yard and our own space for so long. I am actually shocked at how many families with multiple children live in apartments!!! We were told that the taxes on homes here is so high that people just can't afford it (which is why we couldn't find a rental home in our price range). Our neighbors are all great (never loud or annoying) and taking the dogs out each time and walking them hasn't been bad at all!! We share the responsibility and it helps that Josiah loves to walk Sequoia (even after she pulled him down). Our new routine, since Josh started school, is that after dinner we do a family walk. Each time we walk around the apartments is about a mile and we do it at least 3 times a day. We have a lot of parks, all within walking distance and soon we will be able to enjoy the pools as well! I hope to teach Josiah how to swim this summer. We will see. I am still praying that once Josh's school load gets heavier he will be able to study ok in our place! If anything, Josiah and I will just have to go out and let Josh study, or if he is studying after his bedtime, I will read or finish the scrap books I have been needing to complete. (or maybe I will blog more :)
So, we are getting used to it here and enjoying the family time we have been able to have most!!!! Tomorrow we get to go to a picnic (at our favorite place...Onondaga Lake) with Josh's Grad School program people. We hope to meet some other families and get to know some new people (as well as see the few people we know from Ft. Campbell). Thank you to those of you who have prayed for us during our move and the during the time of our loss! We are hoping for some answers in that area, but still completely trusting the Lord with it all and we have faith in Him that His will is perfect.
Sunday, May 13, 2012
Mother's Day...Bitter Sweet
Mother's Day...a day where we honor our Mother's for their hard work and dedication to us and I am very grateful for the mother that the Lord blessed me with. She has always been supportive, encouraging, loving and strong and I hope to be half as good of a mother as her!!! Mother's Day is also a day where, when you become a mother you reflect on your time being a mother and you think about all of the memories you have with your child or children. You think about the things that have made you grow stronger and wiser and for me, I thank the Lord for each one of those times.
For us, this Mother's Day was going to be something a little more special!! It was going to be the day that we told our family and friends that we would be welcoming a baby to our family in December! We were so excited at the possibility of having another baby and grateful to the Lord to allow us to have another child! Being a parent is one of the best gifts we have ever been given and we would love more than anything to be able to do it all over again and to bless Josiah with the little brother or sister he has been asking for! Josh and I found out the week we were getting ready to pack up for our move to NY that we were pregnant! As most of you know we have been trying for a while now and got pregnant twice in 2011, but unfortunately the babies did not make it. We were so excited to see the positive test and immediately called my doctor for some blood work in order to be monitored closely. We allowed ourselves to get a little more excited when the doctor told us the blood work looked very promising...better than the last two pregnancies (and I have been on medication this time to help my levels)!
We continued with our moving plans to NY and I took it easier than usual. Once arriving and getting an address, we quickly started working on getting established with a doctor here in order to be referred to a OBGYN in our area. Our appointment was set for May 4th (3 days after my birthday and 9 days before Mother's Day). What a great gift hearing our baby's 8 week old heartbeat for the first time. Needless to say we were both nervous and excited for our appointment. Josh stayed with Josiah in the waiting room until it was time for the ultrasound. Once the doctor was ready we had them come in a join us. Almost immediately I saw what the doctor saw...when you have been in this position two times before you kind of know what you are looking for. What we were praying and hoping for was not there. The doctor was very nice and just said "How do I even begin to tell you what is going on here with all that you have been through already?" I then said, you don't have to....I see what I see. He sent us over to a better machine where the ultrasound tech confirmed what we already knew. Another pregnancy was going to become a loss. Heartbreak...no other word for it. Not only that, but we had just moved to a place where no one knew us, the doctors didn't even have my medical records yet to know what we have done in the past and we were hours away from any family. Sadly, after talking with the doctor and nurse I was scheduled for surgery for Thursday, May 10th. We were both shocked to say the least....there were no signs showing there to be anything wrong! I had even begun to have symptoms of being pregnant...which sounds weird to say I was excited to be nauseated, but I was. For a third time in 13 months we were loosing another baby without knowing the reason why.
We had some planning to do for surgery day and luckily the hospital was nice enough to schedule it a little later rather than me having to be there at 6:15am and it took 30 minutes to get there. I wanted to make the day as normal as possible for Josiah so he didn't really know what was going on. Since we don't know anyone here yet and don't have any family here, I felt more comfortable knowing that Josh had Josiah and I knew I would be ok if Josiah and Josh were taken care of. They took me in and made sure they knew where I was and the doctor had his number to call when I was done and then the nurse would call when I could go home. Not that I want to ever go through something like this again, I will say that the Lord had the entire day in His control...of course. I was blessed with an amazing nurse named Barbara who I will always remember! She definitely took care of me and I never felt alone. I was able to text with Josh letting him know what was going on until I was taken up for the surgery. I felt at peace knowing Josiah was with Josh and they were having fun together. I never wanted Josiah to know what was going on and I think we were successful in that plan. My nurse was scheduled to get off at 2:00 and it was after 2:00 when I got to a room after surgery. She was sweet enough to wait on me and came in to talk to me for a little while. We had a great conversation and I know for a fact that the Lord had her as my nurse for that day!!!! I am grateful for that "divine appointment."
So here we are on Mother's Day...our little boy taking his afternoon nap and I am sitting next to the man of my dreams...my rock here on earth. Physically I feel totally fine...emotionally I am working on it. I know the Lord never gives us more than we can handle and I know His plan and will is perfect...even if we never understand why certain things happen! Each miscarriage seems a little harder to swallow, but I know in my heart the Lord is preparing us for something and if I can be there as a support for someone else who goes through this I will!!!!
I will say that I am forever grateful for the child we do have!! He truly is a blessing!!!! He lights up our life everyday...full of energy and love! This morning he came running into our room and said "Mother's Happy Day, Mommy!!!" How cute...and then when he gave me a card from him, he said "I drew a snake on it, Mommy!!" Such a boy! I will cherish every single moment with him and never take it for granted...and I will also always remember the three other children who are in Heaven now...and if they are anything like Josiah I am sure they are keeping God entertained! As sad as the past week has been, I am happy knowing that I am blessed with Josh and Josiah and wouldn't ask for my life to be any other way!! Josh truly knows how to be a man of God...a man who shows his wife Christ's love each day! He has been such an encouragement to me in so many ways...although we don't have any answers as to why this is happening, we still have each other and our precious son, Josiah!
Today I will be giving Josiah extra hugs and I love you's!
This picture was taken at the Putt Putt place tonight. It was Josiah's choice to take me to play putt putt...he has been asking us for weeks to go!!! We had a blast!
For us, this Mother's Day was going to be something a little more special!! It was going to be the day that we told our family and friends that we would be welcoming a baby to our family in December! We were so excited at the possibility of having another baby and grateful to the Lord to allow us to have another child! Being a parent is one of the best gifts we have ever been given and we would love more than anything to be able to do it all over again and to bless Josiah with the little brother or sister he has been asking for! Josh and I found out the week we were getting ready to pack up for our move to NY that we were pregnant! As most of you know we have been trying for a while now and got pregnant twice in 2011, but unfortunately the babies did not make it. We were so excited to see the positive test and immediately called my doctor for some blood work in order to be monitored closely. We allowed ourselves to get a little more excited when the doctor told us the blood work looked very promising...better than the last two pregnancies (and I have been on medication this time to help my levels)!
We continued with our moving plans to NY and I took it easier than usual. Once arriving and getting an address, we quickly started working on getting established with a doctor here in order to be referred to a OBGYN in our area. Our appointment was set for May 4th (3 days after my birthday and 9 days before Mother's Day). What a great gift hearing our baby's 8 week old heartbeat for the first time. Needless to say we were both nervous and excited for our appointment. Josh stayed with Josiah in the waiting room until it was time for the ultrasound. Once the doctor was ready we had them come in a join us. Almost immediately I saw what the doctor saw...when you have been in this position two times before you kind of know what you are looking for. What we were praying and hoping for was not there. The doctor was very nice and just said "How do I even begin to tell you what is going on here with all that you have been through already?" I then said, you don't have to....I see what I see. He sent us over to a better machine where the ultrasound tech confirmed what we already knew. Another pregnancy was going to become a loss. Heartbreak...no other word for it. Not only that, but we had just moved to a place where no one knew us, the doctors didn't even have my medical records yet to know what we have done in the past and we were hours away from any family. Sadly, after talking with the doctor and nurse I was scheduled for surgery for Thursday, May 10th. We were both shocked to say the least....there were no signs showing there to be anything wrong! I had even begun to have symptoms of being pregnant...which sounds weird to say I was excited to be nauseated, but I was. For a third time in 13 months we were loosing another baby without knowing the reason why.
We had some planning to do for surgery day and luckily the hospital was nice enough to schedule it a little later rather than me having to be there at 6:15am and it took 30 minutes to get there. I wanted to make the day as normal as possible for Josiah so he didn't really know what was going on. Since we don't know anyone here yet and don't have any family here, I felt more comfortable knowing that Josh had Josiah and I knew I would be ok if Josiah and Josh were taken care of. They took me in and made sure they knew where I was and the doctor had his number to call when I was done and then the nurse would call when I could go home. Not that I want to ever go through something like this again, I will say that the Lord had the entire day in His control...of course. I was blessed with an amazing nurse named Barbara who I will always remember! She definitely took care of me and I never felt alone. I was able to text with Josh letting him know what was going on until I was taken up for the surgery. I felt at peace knowing Josiah was with Josh and they were having fun together. I never wanted Josiah to know what was going on and I think we were successful in that plan. My nurse was scheduled to get off at 2:00 and it was after 2:00 when I got to a room after surgery. She was sweet enough to wait on me and came in to talk to me for a little while. We had a great conversation and I know for a fact that the Lord had her as my nurse for that day!!!! I am grateful for that "divine appointment."
So here we are on Mother's Day...our little boy taking his afternoon nap and I am sitting next to the man of my dreams...my rock here on earth. Physically I feel totally fine...emotionally I am working on it. I know the Lord never gives us more than we can handle and I know His plan and will is perfect...even if we never understand why certain things happen! Each miscarriage seems a little harder to swallow, but I know in my heart the Lord is preparing us for something and if I can be there as a support for someone else who goes through this I will!!!!
I will say that I am forever grateful for the child we do have!! He truly is a blessing!!!! He lights up our life everyday...full of energy and love! This morning he came running into our room and said "Mother's Happy Day, Mommy!!!" How cute...and then when he gave me a card from him, he said "I drew a snake on it, Mommy!!" Such a boy! I will cherish every single moment with him and never take it for granted...and I will also always remember the three other children who are in Heaven now...and if they are anything like Josiah I am sure they are keeping God entertained! As sad as the past week has been, I am happy knowing that I am blessed with Josh and Josiah and wouldn't ask for my life to be any other way!! Josh truly knows how to be a man of God...a man who shows his wife Christ's love each day! He has been such an encouragement to me in so many ways...although we don't have any answers as to why this is happening, we still have each other and our precious son, Josiah!
Today I will be giving Josiah extra hugs and I love you's!
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Memories
Well, here we are again, getting ready to take on another move, a new city/state (kind of...we lived in Syracuse 9 years ago, so it isn't completely new), packing, unpacking and adjusting. I really don't mind moving...it helps make you clean out closets, purge and have a garage sale (which I do all of those things often anyway...I HATE CLUTTER). This move is a little different being that we own our house here and Josiah will experience his first move that he has friends he will have to part from (he was only 9 weeks old when we moved here). He loves his little friends and asks daily (more like 10 times a day) who can come over to play, if we can go to someone else's house or if we can meet someone at the park! Poor child is majorly going to miss his little friends and I will too!!! I love all of the children he has developed relationships with (and I love their mommies too). This will be a tough place to leave! We love it here...and most of why we love it is the people we know and love. Ironically, more than half of those friends are moving as well at some point in the near future. Regardless if our friends are Clarksville residence of life or friends we have had the privilege of spending Army life with we will miss each and every one of them!!!
Tonight I spent some time putting Josiah's old clothes in space saver bags (and by the way, they actually work). We are trying to cut our rubbermaid storage in half because we are downsizing a lot to move to NY, but I can't bring myself to get rid of his baby/toddler clothes. I hope that we use them again someday on another sweet and precious boy (maybe Jeremiah or Titus or whatever other name we love). As I was going through his newborn clothes I had so many memories go through my mind (and some were spoken to Josh as he is collecting his Army gear to turn into Ft. Campbell). I must have said 100 times while doing this "Man, I honestly cannot remember Josiah EVER being that SMALL." or "How did Josiah ever fit into this?" I loved the outfit we brought him home from the hospital in!! So cute! I just put it up to my nose hoping to smell the sweet baby we were (and still are) blessed to have. They just smelled like laundry detergent, but the memory of him in those clothes are still very strong in my head and heart!!!!!!! I found tiny, tiny little socks - I am not sure they ever fit his chunky monkey feet, but we put them on him anyway. I found sweet little hats and the swaddle blanket we have pictures of him in at the hospital. All of those precious little nightgowns that he wore those first few weeks and many, many more cute outfits that made him even cuter than he was. I am so glad to have those memories in my heart still after 3 and a half years. (I am getting teary eyed just thinking about it). Josiah has grown into such an amazing little boy!! A boy that Josh and I were just talking about tonight...how he has become so silly!! He does the silliest things that sometimes drive us nuts, but always makes us laugh!! Like tonight in the car, I was telling Josh how he asks questions all day long. He wants an itinerary the moment he wakes up of what we are doing that day...and then before going to bed he wants one of what the next day will bring "after I eat breakfast...what are we going to do?" So, I was telling Josh all day long he asks things like that (I am not complaining, because I love having conversations with him)...I was giving an example like "what are we going to eat?" From the back seat, Josiah says "Mommy, we already ate dinner!!" LOL. I had no clue he was even listening to me...Josh and I just cracked up!!!
So, although I am kind of sick of going through our house and reorganizing before the packers come (and if you are a military family you know that it doesn't matter what you do the movers are still going to pack it in a disorganized fashion and you will end up redoing all of it on the other end of the move), I have really enjoyed going through his things especially and reliving his little life!!! I love remembering him in those clothes and shoes...memories of things we did while he had a particular outfit on. I hope to never forget those memories!! We are blessed to have him...and as the time goes on that we only have him, it makes me even more grateful for his little life!!! It makes me realize just how miraculous a baby/child is!!! I have hope and faith that he won't be our only child, but if he is the LORD BLESSED US WITH HIM AND THAT IS MORE THAN WE EVEN DESERVE!!! I can promise you one thing....there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank the Lord for him and Josh being in my life!!!!!!!
Tonight I spent some time putting Josiah's old clothes in space saver bags (and by the way, they actually work). We are trying to cut our rubbermaid storage in half because we are downsizing a lot to move to NY, but I can't bring myself to get rid of his baby/toddler clothes. I hope that we use them again someday on another sweet and precious boy (maybe Jeremiah or Titus or whatever other name we love). As I was going through his newborn clothes I had so many memories go through my mind (and some were spoken to Josh as he is collecting his Army gear to turn into Ft. Campbell). I must have said 100 times while doing this "Man, I honestly cannot remember Josiah EVER being that SMALL." or "How did Josiah ever fit into this?" I loved the outfit we brought him home from the hospital in!! So cute! I just put it up to my nose hoping to smell the sweet baby we were (and still are) blessed to have. They just smelled like laundry detergent, but the memory of him in those clothes are still very strong in my head and heart!!!!!!! I found tiny, tiny little socks - I am not sure they ever fit his chunky monkey feet, but we put them on him anyway. I found sweet little hats and the swaddle blanket we have pictures of him in at the hospital. All of those precious little nightgowns that he wore those first few weeks and many, many more cute outfits that made him even cuter than he was. I am so glad to have those memories in my heart still after 3 and a half years. (I am getting teary eyed just thinking about it). Josiah has grown into such an amazing little boy!! A boy that Josh and I were just talking about tonight...how he has become so silly!! He does the silliest things that sometimes drive us nuts, but always makes us laugh!! Like tonight in the car, I was telling Josh how he asks questions all day long. He wants an itinerary the moment he wakes up of what we are doing that day...and then before going to bed he wants one of what the next day will bring "after I eat breakfast...what are we going to do?" So, I was telling Josh all day long he asks things like that (I am not complaining, because I love having conversations with him)...I was giving an example like "what are we going to eat?" From the back seat, Josiah says "Mommy, we already ate dinner!!" LOL. I had no clue he was even listening to me...Josh and I just cracked up!!!
So, although I am kind of sick of going through our house and reorganizing before the packers come (and if you are a military family you know that it doesn't matter what you do the movers are still going to pack it in a disorganized fashion and you will end up redoing all of it on the other end of the move), I have really enjoyed going through his things especially and reliving his little life!!! I love remembering him in those clothes and shoes...memories of things we did while he had a particular outfit on. I hope to never forget those memories!! We are blessed to have him...and as the time goes on that we only have him, it makes me even more grateful for his little life!!! It makes me realize just how miraculous a baby/child is!!! I have hope and faith that he won't be our only child, but if he is the LORD BLESSED US WITH HIM AND THAT IS MORE THAN WE EVEN DESERVE!!! I can promise you one thing....there isn't a day that goes by that I don't thank the Lord for him and Josh being in my life!!!!!!!
Monday, March 5, 2012
My "WHY"
So, as many of you have probably read on my facebook page...I have joined Thirty-One. I am super excited about this new little "business" in my life. After talking with Summer (my team director), and when I say talking to...I mean I probably drove her crazy with all of my questions before officially signing up. I wanted to make sure I was doing the right thing and I am a planner...probably too much of a planner! I have prayed about it, researched it, talked with others who either have done it or who have purchased their products in the past, and I have probably driven Josh crazy by talking about all of the things on my mind about it. He is the best husband though...he listened to my fears about failing at it, talked to me about my reasons for wanting to do it and just encouraged me along the way without making the decision for me...I am married to a wonderful man!!!
Let me first start by saying, I never would have imagined I would sign up for this (or any other consultant position). I just would have always made the excuse that I don't love talking in front of people or that I didn't have the time. I think I have come to a point in my life that I need something like this. I LOVE my life!! I am a very BLESSED woman.....way more blessed than I deserve to be! I have done a lot of reflecting on my life lately...the person I have become. As many of you know, Josh and I experienced two miscarriages in 2011. They were harder on me than I would have ever imagined a miscarriage could be! I have learned that you don't take a life for granted...and I am forever grateful for the Lord blessing us with Josiah 3 years ago! I realize now that getting pregnant and keeping a pregnancy isn't as easy for some...even though it was easy the first time...it hasn't been since. I haven't been dwelling over it, but it is something I think about often!!! I am grateful to the Lord for these times because I have definitely grown as a person and I pray that it has made me a better wife and mother. I know that I can sympathize so much more now with those that experience loss!!!
The Thirty-One company is a Christian based business...that I love first of all! It is based on the Proverbs 31 wife...and I have read that chapter in Proverbs so many times and think to myself.. "wow, I have a long way to go to be a Proverbs 31 woman!" I feel as though if you don't think that about yourself maybe you have some more examining to do! I don't look at that chapter and think.."Man, I will never live up to that." Instead, I think..."wow...thank you, Lord, for giving me a guideline written right there in the Bible on how to be a wife and a mother." So, in my daily life that is what my goal is...to be a woman/wife/mother like the one found in Proverbs. My relationship with the Lord comes first and then Josh and Josiah!!! I will never be the wife and mother that I am called to be if I don't put the Lord first...but then I will also never be the wife and mother I am supposed to be if I don't take care of myself as well!! This is my WHY...Thirty-One wants to know your "Why Story." Why would you want to be apart of this company...I want to do it because I feel like right now in my life I need something for me. That sounds completely selfish and I am not meaning it in a selfish way at all!! I feel like maybe I need a way of getting my mind off of the losses we experienced last year (not to forget about them completely), but maybe to be able to link up and start relationships with other mothers who have gone through similar situations. Maybe I can be an encouragement to them and them to me! Another reason is because I think it is important for Josh and Josiah to have father/son time. Because I stay at home with him, Josh is very rarely alone with him. It just works out that way...Josh works long days and when he gets home we have our normal night schedule of dinner, bath and bed all within an hour or 2 of him getting home. Then on the weekends, we love doing things as a family, so they rarely get one on one time...and I know how important that is for them (especially now that Josiah is getting older...he craves and longs for man time with his daddy). With me leading a party a couple of times a month he will get that time...without me (the hovering mom, telling them to be gentle while wrestling...lol). Also, with moving to NY it will give me a great opportunity to meet other woman and make growing relationships with people that I may not have met without Thirty-One. Josh will be going to school there, so we both feel as though this would be the perfect time to start...he will have more of a set schedule with classes so I can plan parties when it is most convenient for our family (versus being stressed out making sure he would be home on time for me to leave - which would be the case if he weren't in school). Josh has been 100% supportive in this and I love him for it, because I know for a fact that if he didn't think it was something I should do, he would tell me!!! He is awesome.
These are just a few reasons we decided it would be a great opportunity to join Thirty-One...and what woman doesn't love a great, new bag? I know I do!! I have always loved bags!!!
Let me first start by saying, I never would have imagined I would sign up for this (or any other consultant position). I just would have always made the excuse that I don't love talking in front of people or that I didn't have the time. I think I have come to a point in my life that I need something like this. I LOVE my life!! I am a very BLESSED woman.....way more blessed than I deserve to be! I have done a lot of reflecting on my life lately...the person I have become. As many of you know, Josh and I experienced two miscarriages in 2011. They were harder on me than I would have ever imagined a miscarriage could be! I have learned that you don't take a life for granted...and I am forever grateful for the Lord blessing us with Josiah 3 years ago! I realize now that getting pregnant and keeping a pregnancy isn't as easy for some...even though it was easy the first time...it hasn't been since. I haven't been dwelling over it, but it is something I think about often!!! I am grateful to the Lord for these times because I have definitely grown as a person and I pray that it has made me a better wife and mother. I know that I can sympathize so much more now with those that experience loss!!!
The Thirty-One company is a Christian based business...that I love first of all! It is based on the Proverbs 31 wife...and I have read that chapter in Proverbs so many times and think to myself.. "wow, I have a long way to go to be a Proverbs 31 woman!" I feel as though if you don't think that about yourself maybe you have some more examining to do! I don't look at that chapter and think.."Man, I will never live up to that." Instead, I think..."wow...thank you, Lord, for giving me a guideline written right there in the Bible on how to be a wife and a mother." So, in my daily life that is what my goal is...to be a woman/wife/mother like the one found in Proverbs. My relationship with the Lord comes first and then Josh and Josiah!!! I will never be the wife and mother that I am called to be if I don't put the Lord first...but then I will also never be the wife and mother I am supposed to be if I don't take care of myself as well!! This is my WHY...Thirty-One wants to know your "Why Story." Why would you want to be apart of this company...I want to do it because I feel like right now in my life I need something for me. That sounds completely selfish and I am not meaning it in a selfish way at all!! I feel like maybe I need a way of getting my mind off of the losses we experienced last year (not to forget about them completely), but maybe to be able to link up and start relationships with other mothers who have gone through similar situations. Maybe I can be an encouragement to them and them to me! Another reason is because I think it is important for Josh and Josiah to have father/son time. Because I stay at home with him, Josh is very rarely alone with him. It just works out that way...Josh works long days and when he gets home we have our normal night schedule of dinner, bath and bed all within an hour or 2 of him getting home. Then on the weekends, we love doing things as a family, so they rarely get one on one time...and I know how important that is for them (especially now that Josiah is getting older...he craves and longs for man time with his daddy). With me leading a party a couple of times a month he will get that time...without me (the hovering mom, telling them to be gentle while wrestling...lol). Also, with moving to NY it will give me a great opportunity to meet other woman and make growing relationships with people that I may not have met without Thirty-One. Josh will be going to school there, so we both feel as though this would be the perfect time to start...he will have more of a set schedule with classes so I can plan parties when it is most convenient for our family (versus being stressed out making sure he would be home on time for me to leave - which would be the case if he weren't in school). Josh has been 100% supportive in this and I love him for it, because I know for a fact that if he didn't think it was something I should do, he would tell me!!! He is awesome.
These are just a few reasons we decided it would be a great opportunity to join Thirty-One...and what woman doesn't love a great, new bag? I know I do!! I have always loved bags!!!
Saturday, January 14, 2012
The Lord's Calling
Have you ever felt like the Lord is really trying to teach you something? Have you felt Him clearly speak to you about something in your life? It is the neatest thing in the world to know it is the Lord speaking to you...urging you to do something, speak to someone or help someone. Whatever it is, it can also be a bit scary as well.
This week I have been reading the "Sermon on the Mount" (Matthew 5, 6 and 7) and the Lord has very much convicted me about some things. He has used that scripture in a powerful way in my life this week. Isn't it crazy how you could have read a verse or passage of scripture before and it not really speak to you and then you read it at a different time in your life and it hits you in the face? I love it...but I am not going to lie that it can be scary. Since starting my reading on Monday and continuing it throughout the week and also attending THRIVE with the women from our church the Lord has made something very clear to me. It is like he is using different things to work in this one area of my life/heart. Seriously....He has even used Josiah talking about something that he has never even mentioned to me in the past to get me to realize that yes, in fact it is the Lord's calling. I experienced something in Walmart today and immediately called Josh when I got to the car to tell him what happened. He and I both agree that it is clearly the Lord...teaching me and maturing me in this area of my life. Part of me is scared but my heart KNOWS without a doubt it is God. I am beyond grateful to have a husband who loves me, listens to me, guides/leads me and encourages me!!! Although he is not physically here with us right now due to work, I am so grateful he was able to talk through some things with me this morning and help me sort out these emotions and feelings in my heart...and then the Walmart thing happened and I was thinking to myself "OK GOD...I HEAR YOU!" What can I say...I am a little stubborn and need to be coaxed for certain things...I need to make sure it isn't my mind playing tricks on me...that it is God and He knows I need that. Thankful for a Lord who knows me, knows my insecurities and will protect me when I feel vulnerable. (Maybe when I obey the Lord's tugging on my heart about this my killer headache will go away. just kidding)
This week I have been reading the "Sermon on the Mount" (Matthew 5, 6 and 7) and the Lord has very much convicted me about some things. He has used that scripture in a powerful way in my life this week. Isn't it crazy how you could have read a verse or passage of scripture before and it not really speak to you and then you read it at a different time in your life and it hits you in the face? I love it...but I am not going to lie that it can be scary. Since starting my reading on Monday and continuing it throughout the week and also attending THRIVE with the women from our church the Lord has made something very clear to me. It is like he is using different things to work in this one area of my life/heart. Seriously....He has even used Josiah talking about something that he has never even mentioned to me in the past to get me to realize that yes, in fact it is the Lord's calling. I experienced something in Walmart today and immediately called Josh when I got to the car to tell him what happened. He and I both agree that it is clearly the Lord...teaching me and maturing me in this area of my life. Part of me is scared but my heart KNOWS without a doubt it is God. I am beyond grateful to have a husband who loves me, listens to me, guides/leads me and encourages me!!! Although he is not physically here with us right now due to work, I am so grateful he was able to talk through some things with me this morning and help me sort out these emotions and feelings in my heart...and then the Walmart thing happened and I was thinking to myself "OK GOD...I HEAR YOU!" What can I say...I am a little stubborn and need to be coaxed for certain things...I need to make sure it isn't my mind playing tricks on me...that it is God and He knows I need that. Thankful for a Lord who knows me, knows my insecurities and will protect me when I feel vulnerable. (Maybe when I obey the Lord's tugging on my heart about this my killer headache will go away. just kidding)
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Shady Patio Guy
I am writing this to vent my frustrations about doing business with a Shady Guy...who owned Nature's Best Landscaping...so if you live in the Clarksville, TN area DO NOT use him. Let me make it clear that Josh and I are not the type of people to take someone to court. Neither one of us have ever done it and I hope to never do it again! Not that our court situation has been a horrible experience, but that I know that we have learned on doing background checks, etc on someone we want to hire to do work at or on our home! Anyone we ever hire in the future better be ready for me to ask them a million questions before giving them our business or money. I have learned my lesson for sure.
Last March we hired a guy to dig up under our deck and place weed control down with rocks to help with landscaping and rabbits. We were finding dead bunnies under our deck daily (sometimes 5 a day) and that does not go well with me or our dogs. Our dogs were playing with them and the last straw was when I was in the back with our 2 year old at the time playing when a dead bunny appeared. I screamed and in turn scared Josiah to death. Originally we hired Don to do the under part of the deck. Well, he came up with this plan (an idea we had been thinking about doing for a while). We have an area in our back yard that would be great for a patio and the people who owned the house before us just put some flag stones down and allowed the grass to grow in between. We had been wanting to concrete it in for a while and make it more useful. Well, Don said he could do it. Very long story short, he did a shady job using brick mortar instead of concrete...the foundation moves under your feet...our 40lb dog's foot went through it after it was completed and you can pick up the flag stones because they are not cemented in. It was overall the worst job I have ever seen. He was supposed to dig up the foundation, make it level and take care of the grass and weeds so that they would be gone forever. Almost immediately we had grass growing up through the concrete!! It is done so terribly that our 2 year old (now 3 year old) could pick up the concrete. Surely that is not supposed to be able to be done...let alone by a toddler.
After talking with some other workers in that field of work and having them come out to give us an estimate of fixing it, we decided to take Don to small claims court without a lawyer. We had pictures, phone records of times that he never called us back, his contract stating he would complete the job, etc. we had our act together. (by the way, the day he "finished" the job he said he would be back to check on the foundation that weekend to make sure it was drying correctly...did he ever come? NOPE...did he return any of our phone calls? NO....did he cash our check immediately?...YES! We pay our court fees (taking him to court originally was to make sure he didn't do this to someone else in town) and show up to represent ourselves because we didn't want to pay for a lawyer. Don never shows, but had hired a lawyer the day before our court date. The lawyer he hired knew nothing of the situation and came in saying that they only thing Don told him was that he would come back to our property and fix it. NO WAY...are you kidding me? We gave you more than an opportunity to fix what you had done wrong and we didn't want him back in our yard. His "lawyer" saw our pictures, our phone records and all that we had come prepared with and said "clearly, I am representing the wrong party here." lol So, we then had to set a court date for a trial that involved us needing a lawyer. We got an excellent lawyer and our court date came. Guess what? Shady Don did't show up and didn't have a lawyer to represent him either. The judge obviously found us to be correct in our story and in the state of TN you can get extra for Lying and Deceptive Work. We didn't want more..in fact what the judge came to is far more than we would ever expect someone to pay. We just want it fixed..so we want the amount of money it would take to fix it. We aren't doing this to make money on the guy. We aren't trying to screw him over - we just want it made right.
I just want it over with...I feel stressed because we are moving soon and so it has to be fixed and that costs money. When the guy claims to have nothing, I feel bad for saying this, but I don't believe him! Maybe he is having a hard time in life, and I am sorry for that, but he fed me so many stories during his job that I just want him to pay us what we deserve. I have definitely learned from this...and this will be a great example to use for Josiah (and/or future children we have) to teach that life just isn't fair sometimes. Guess I am going to use my anger toward Good Ole Don on the patio when Josh and I are the ones ripping it up with sledge hammers!!!
(I have even more pictures of us being able to lift the flag stones out of the middle and the giant hole in the middle of it, but they are on a different computer that isn't working.)
Last March we hired a guy to dig up under our deck and place weed control down with rocks to help with landscaping and rabbits. We were finding dead bunnies under our deck daily (sometimes 5 a day) and that does not go well with me or our dogs. Our dogs were playing with them and the last straw was when I was in the back with our 2 year old at the time playing when a dead bunny appeared. I screamed and in turn scared Josiah to death. Originally we hired Don to do the under part of the deck. Well, he came up with this plan (an idea we had been thinking about doing for a while). We have an area in our back yard that would be great for a patio and the people who owned the house before us just put some flag stones down and allowed the grass to grow in between. We had been wanting to concrete it in for a while and make it more useful. Well, Don said he could do it. Very long story short, he did a shady job using brick mortar instead of concrete...the foundation moves under your feet...our 40lb dog's foot went through it after it was completed and you can pick up the flag stones because they are not cemented in. It was overall the worst job I have ever seen. He was supposed to dig up the foundation, make it level and take care of the grass and weeds so that they would be gone forever. Almost immediately we had grass growing up through the concrete!! It is done so terribly that our 2 year old (now 3 year old) could pick up the concrete. Surely that is not supposed to be able to be done...let alone by a toddler.
After talking with some other workers in that field of work and having them come out to give us an estimate of fixing it, we decided to take Don to small claims court without a lawyer. We had pictures, phone records of times that he never called us back, his contract stating he would complete the job, etc. we had our act together. (by the way, the day he "finished" the job he said he would be back to check on the foundation that weekend to make sure it was drying correctly...did he ever come? NOPE...did he return any of our phone calls? NO....did he cash our check immediately?...YES! We pay our court fees (taking him to court originally was to make sure he didn't do this to someone else in town) and show up to represent ourselves because we didn't want to pay for a lawyer. Don never shows, but had hired a lawyer the day before our court date. The lawyer he hired knew nothing of the situation and came in saying that they only thing Don told him was that he would come back to our property and fix it. NO WAY...are you kidding me? We gave you more than an opportunity to fix what you had done wrong and we didn't want him back in our yard. His "lawyer" saw our pictures, our phone records and all that we had come prepared with and said "clearly, I am representing the wrong party here." lol So, we then had to set a court date for a trial that involved us needing a lawyer. We got an excellent lawyer and our court date came. Guess what? Shady Don did't show up and didn't have a lawyer to represent him either. The judge obviously found us to be correct in our story and in the state of TN you can get extra for Lying and Deceptive Work. We didn't want more..in fact what the judge came to is far more than we would ever expect someone to pay. We just want it fixed..so we want the amount of money it would take to fix it. We aren't doing this to make money on the guy. We aren't trying to screw him over - we just want it made right.
(I have even more pictures of us being able to lift the flag stones out of the middle and the giant hole in the middle of it, but they are on a different computer that isn't working.)
Friday, December 23, 2011
Christmas at our House
I honestly can't believe that Christmas is just two short days away!! We are super excited that my parents (aka Grammie and Poppy) are here (arrived at 2am this morning and got up with smiling faces to see their only grandchild....and Josiah was very happy to see them!). I have been baking like crazy. Not really sure why, except the fact that I love to bake and share goodies with friends and family. This week I have made mint chocolate chip cookies, snicker doodles, mint crisps, Christmas sugar cookies, brownies and white chocolate snack mix. I currently have a peppermint pound cake in the oven and will make an apple pie later. Then I will be done. I delivered some treats to neighbors and friends yesterday and today. It is fun for me to share sweets with others!!
Since the Christmas season started our family of three has enjoyed some fun memories. We have driven around to see Christmas lights (which we plan to do again with my parents tonight), gone downtown to walk the River Lights, went to the drive thru Nativity, watched Christmas movies, made Advent crafts, listened to LOTS of Christmas music and done a little shopping. I will have to say that Christmas this year is even more fun. Josiah knows more about it and I love seeing his face light up at the different things he experiences. He still isn't completely a fan of Santa and will only wave from a distance. We aren't pushing it because I don't want to scare our child to death and let's face it Christmas is definitely not all about Santa. Every morning Josiah asks for me to put music on after breakfast and he knows exactly what song he wants to hear. His favorite Christmas song is Jessica Simpson's version of "Let It Snow." The minute it comes on he starts dancing!! It is cute. For me, at Christmas I love to give people baked goods. It is something about the time and energy I put into making some special treats to share. Josiah has really enjoyed baking with me this year as well! He is really at a fun age! I've said before that I am not a huge shopper. We didn't buy much this year (as I am sure a lot of people are in the same boat). With our impending move and the disaster we have on our patio that still needs to be fixed, we tried to keep things simple. We will see how simple my sweet husband kept things since his love language is gift giving. I love that he loves to give to others and sometimes I wish I had the same love language. My love language is quality time and acts of service. I love doing things for people to help them and I enjoy just spending time with others. I am so grateful that Josh and I know each other's love languages!! Yesterday and today I have started to feel bad that I may not have gotten him enough for Christmas or even gotten him the "perfect" gift. I made him his favorite cookies :) It is too late now, because I am not going out today to get anything else. I am more of a worrier about the bank account than he is and don't want to over spend on Christmas gifts. I feel like that can be super easy to do once you start seeing other things that you would want to get someone. I have always kind of felt like I am not a very good gift giver...wish I was better, but glad I married someone who is. We definitely balance each other out!!!! He finds great gifts and then we talk about whether or not we should spend the money on them. This year with him in Pathfinder School I ended up having to do most of the shopping on my own...so the few things we bought I hope people like them!!! Josiah's Santa gifts are an Easel (which I am super excited about because I know he will love it...he has recently really started enjoying coloring and painting so I know it will be fun for him). Maybe it is my inner teacher, but I am hoping we will have short "school" sessions at home with it! We also got him the Mickey Mouse Drum he has been wanting. He saw it one day in Walgreens and that is all he talks about when people ask him what he wants from Santa...luckily it was only $9.99 and the day I went they were buy one toy get one free so I picked out a blue (his favorite color) car for him as well. My parents got him (from Santa) a tool set and a big dump truck which he will absolutely LOVE!! I guess maybe I feel like I never want to spoil him too much on Christmas and have him not be appreciative of what he receives..and also forget what Christmas is truly about. The BIRTH OF JESUS CHRIST!!
Anyway, with that said our family is ready for Christmas. No more shopping - just enjoying our time together! I refuse to go out to the stores with the crazy shoppers! We are just enjoying our time at home...tonight we are having Chicken Taco Soup, tomorrow (Christmas Eve) I am making Ham with all of the sides before we go to church for our Christmas Eve service and then dessert afterward (Peppermint Cake, Apple Pie and all of the cookies). On Christmas day, I stick with Josh's family tradition and make Italian. We will have salad, chicken parm, spaghetti, asparagus, green beans and bread. Just writing this makes me feel full. I just that is what the season is...eating yummy food!!!
I am beyond grateful to have my husband home again this year for Christmas - that to me is the best gift!! There are so many soldiers away from their families this year, so please keep the soldiers and family members left at home in your prayers!!! We hope and pray that everyone has a wonderful Christmas!!! We sure wish we could be with everyone in our family, but knowing that is impossible, we will just send our love to you all!!!! Merry Christmas!!!!!!!
Since the Christmas season started our family of three has enjoyed some fun memories. We have driven around to see Christmas lights (which we plan to do again with my parents tonight), gone downtown to walk the River Lights, went to the drive thru Nativity, watched Christmas movies, made Advent crafts, listened to LOTS of Christmas music and done a little shopping. I will have to say that Christmas this year is even more fun. Josiah knows more about it and I love seeing his face light up at the different things he experiences. He still isn't completely a fan of Santa and will only wave from a distance. We aren't pushing it because I don't want to scare our child to death and let's face it Christmas is definitely not all about Santa. Every morning Josiah asks for me to put music on after breakfast and he knows exactly what song he wants to hear. His favorite Christmas song is Jessica Simpson's version of "Let It Snow." The minute it comes on he starts dancing!! It is cute. For me, at Christmas I love to give people baked goods. It is something about the time and energy I put into making some special treats to share. Josiah has really enjoyed baking with me this year as well! He is really at a fun age! I've said before that I am not a huge shopper. We didn't buy much this year (as I am sure a lot of people are in the same boat). With our impending move and the disaster we have on our patio that still needs to be fixed, we tried to keep things simple. We will see how simple my sweet husband kept things since his love language is gift giving. I love that he loves to give to others and sometimes I wish I had the same love language. My love language is quality time and acts of service. I love doing things for people to help them and I enjoy just spending time with others. I am so grateful that Josh and I know each other's love languages!! Yesterday and today I have started to feel bad that I may not have gotten him enough for Christmas or even gotten him the "perfect" gift. I made him his favorite cookies :) It is too late now, because I am not going out today to get anything else. I am more of a worrier about the bank account than he is and don't want to over spend on Christmas gifts. I feel like that can be super easy to do once you start seeing other things that you would want to get someone. I have always kind of felt like I am not a very good gift giver...wish I was better, but glad I married someone who is. We definitely balance each other out!!!! He finds great gifts and then we talk about whether or not we should spend the money on them. This year with him in Pathfinder School I ended up having to do most of the shopping on my own...so the few things we bought I hope people like them!!! Josiah's Santa gifts are an Easel (which I am super excited about because I know he will love it...he has recently really started enjoying coloring and painting so I know it will be fun for him). Maybe it is my inner teacher, but I am hoping we will have short "school" sessions at home with it! We also got him the Mickey Mouse Drum he has been wanting. He saw it one day in Walgreens and that is all he talks about when people ask him what he wants from Santa...luckily it was only $9.99 and the day I went they were buy one toy get one free so I picked out a blue (his favorite color) car for him as well. My parents got him (from Santa) a tool set and a big dump truck which he will absolutely LOVE!! I guess maybe I feel like I never want to spoil him too much on Christmas and have him not be appreciative of what he receives..and also forget what Christmas is truly about. The BIRTH OF JESUS CHRIST!!
Anyway, with that said our family is ready for Christmas. No more shopping - just enjoying our time together! I refuse to go out to the stores with the crazy shoppers! We are just enjoying our time at home...tonight we are having Chicken Taco Soup, tomorrow (Christmas Eve) I am making Ham with all of the sides before we go to church for our Christmas Eve service and then dessert afterward (Peppermint Cake, Apple Pie and all of the cookies). On Christmas day, I stick with Josh's family tradition and make Italian. We will have salad, chicken parm, spaghetti, asparagus, green beans and bread. Just writing this makes me feel full. I just that is what the season is...eating yummy food!!!
I am beyond grateful to have my husband home again this year for Christmas - that to me is the best gift!! There are so many soldiers away from their families this year, so please keep the soldiers and family members left at home in your prayers!!! We hope and pray that everyone has a wonderful Christmas!!! We sure wish we could be with everyone in our family, but knowing that is impossible, we will just send our love to you all!!!! Merry Christmas!!!!!!!
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
A True Blessing
I am feeling overwhelmingly blessed with our son!! What a joy he is to my life! I have often been told that three years of age can be a nightmare. I am seeing the fruits of our labor every day and it just blesses my heart more than I can say. Josiah is definitely not perfect...lets face it...NONE of us are! Do we still discipline and train daily? Of course...that is what parenting is! We are called to raise our children for the Lord and I am so grateful that the Lord blessed us with him. We have had times when we would go through stages that were tough, but we were consistent and disciplined with the way we felt the Lord was calling us to. I can look back on the last few weeks of him being two and the first week of him being three and I remember feeling stressed and exhausted (physically, mentally and emotionally) with the constant discipline and teaching. Well, I am glad to say it has paid off tremendously! I am not stupid in thinking that we won't revisit things that we have corrected for in the past, but I am just thankful to the Lord for showing us each day that our hard work is paying off. For example, today we went out to run some errands. It was so much fun! We spent over an hour in Hobby Lobby collecting items for our advent project! It was awesome to walk each row and look at things I wanted to look at and have our sweet little boy walk beside me not touching anything!! Then we went over to the mall to just walk around! I think I can count on two hands how many times I have been to this mall in three years. I am just not a shopper. We went to Hallmark so that he could pick out an ornament for this year (which I got for $1.05! because of a reward certificate that I had and a $5.00 coupon...can't beat that for a Hallmark ornament). He loved walking the mall, looking at things and staring at Santa from afar. I gave him a dollar in quarters before we went into the mall and told him that if he obeyed that he could use that dollar to ride a machine when we were about to leave. He was so excited about hearing those quarters (which he calls pennies) in his pocket! But here is what melted my heart the most and almost brought tears to my eyes (I did tear up telling Josh the story tonight). I am in love with those sugared pecans (I have only had them 3 times in my life but they are so good). There was a man selling them so I stopped and bought us a small bag. That sweet man gave me an extra empty bag for Josiah so he could carry his own. I put some of the pecans in his bag and we continued walking while snacking on our yummy pecans. All of the sudden Josiah started folding the top of his bag down (with pecans still in it) and I said "buddy, are you all done or do you not like them?" His response to me was "I saving these for Daddy. I gonna share with him when he gets home." OH MY WORD. He thought of that all on his own. He loves his Daddy and Josh has been at work late every night this week with Pathfinder school. In fact, the other night Josiah said we couldn't eat dinner without him - that he wanted to wait until he got home...but we had to because I knew Josh would be late. I just love Josiah's heart...We have prayed for him to be kind, loving, and that he would think about others before himself and I am seeing it more and more each day. So, when we have difficult times with him testing his limits I will be reminded of these situations..I will be reminded that the Lord calls us to train our children and we will continue to follow His leading in parenting!!!! Thank you, Lord for the gift you have given to us...a gift named Josiah Michael Sandler!
Proverbs 22:6
"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."
Proverbs 22:6
"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."
Saturday, November 19, 2011
"Inconceivable"
Several months ago a dear friend of mine who lives in Alaska sent me a book titled "Inconceivable." At the time I was reading a Karen Kingsbury book, so I just put it on the shelf for another time. I would walk by it every now and then (while dusting the shelf) and just look at it. Well, the time came two weeks ago when I finally took the book off the shelf to read it not knowing at all what a blessing this book would be to me. As you probably know by now, Josh and I have had a difficult year (+) trying to conceive another child. I have had two miscarriages and lots of tears along the way. I had no idea it could or even would be this hard to conceive another child considering it was very easy once we decided we wanted to start trying for Josiah. We were blessed to get pregnant very quickly with him and I loved every second of being pregnant!!
The book "Inconceivable" is about a family who had two children without any issues and those boys were 10 and 12 years old. The tried for many years to have another child and ended up doing IVF for their third child, a baby girl. When they went in to use more of the embryos they had frozen from the previous retrieval the doctors put the wrong embryos in her. Six weeks later when they found out they were successfully pregnant they also found out that they were pregnant with someone else's baby!! They had the decision to make about whether or not to continue with their pregnancy and they chose to! Praise the Lord. I am about half way through the book. I have gotten to the part where they are now meeting the parents of the child she is carrying. I cannot imagine this ever happening to me. For one of our pregnancies I was only 6 weeks along when we lost it and for the second miscarriage I was 9 weeks along. This may sound crazy, but I feel like I bounded with those babies, so to carry one full term, deliver it and hand it over to someone else would have broken my heart beyond words! The lady in the book was crushed knowing that the doctors told her for her health she should never be pregnant again. The last baby she would carry and birth wasn't even hers. The husband and wife end up hiring a surrogate mother to carry her last embryos in hopes to get more children...children that they prayed for and dreamed of.
Well, the other day I wrote in my facebook status about this book and one of my newer friends here commented back that the family from the book would be on the Today show that morning!! WHAT? Seriously? I read that comment at about 7:15am and quickly ran upstairs to our TV and started recording the show (thank God for DVR). While Josiah was napping I figured I would just fast forward some and see if I started recording it in time! Ten minutes into my recording they showed up on my TV screen! I couldn't believe it!!! Not only was I reading the book, but now I could meet this family on TV!! They were there with all of their children...including 3 month old TWIN girls that were brought into this world by the surrogate mother using their last embryos! The Lord blessed them for their faithfulness! What a blessing!!!!
I truly believe that the LORD has had this occur in my life. The fact that I started reading this book when I did and then have the family be on television and I actually got to watch it is NO COINCIDENCE...it is a DIVINE APPOINTMENT!! I am SO grateful for this book, for my friend, Jackie, sending it to me and for the Lord using it as such an encouragement and blessing in my life.
The book "Inconceivable" is about a family who had two children without any issues and those boys were 10 and 12 years old. The tried for many years to have another child and ended up doing IVF for their third child, a baby girl. When they went in to use more of the embryos they had frozen from the previous retrieval the doctors put the wrong embryos in her. Six weeks later when they found out they were successfully pregnant they also found out that they were pregnant with someone else's baby!! They had the decision to make about whether or not to continue with their pregnancy and they chose to! Praise the Lord. I am about half way through the book. I have gotten to the part where they are now meeting the parents of the child she is carrying. I cannot imagine this ever happening to me. For one of our pregnancies I was only 6 weeks along when we lost it and for the second miscarriage I was 9 weeks along. This may sound crazy, but I feel like I bounded with those babies, so to carry one full term, deliver it and hand it over to someone else would have broken my heart beyond words! The lady in the book was crushed knowing that the doctors told her for her health she should never be pregnant again. The last baby she would carry and birth wasn't even hers. The husband and wife end up hiring a surrogate mother to carry her last embryos in hopes to get more children...children that they prayed for and dreamed of.
Well, the other day I wrote in my facebook status about this book and one of my newer friends here commented back that the family from the book would be on the Today show that morning!! WHAT? Seriously? I read that comment at about 7:15am and quickly ran upstairs to our TV and started recording the show (thank God for DVR). While Josiah was napping I figured I would just fast forward some and see if I started recording it in time! Ten minutes into my recording they showed up on my TV screen! I couldn't believe it!!! Not only was I reading the book, but now I could meet this family on TV!! They were there with all of their children...including 3 month old TWIN girls that were brought into this world by the surrogate mother using their last embryos! The Lord blessed them for their faithfulness! What a blessing!!!!
I truly believe that the LORD has had this occur in my life. The fact that I started reading this book when I did and then have the family be on television and I actually got to watch it is NO COINCIDENCE...it is a DIVINE APPOINTMENT!! I am SO grateful for this book, for my friend, Jackie, sending it to me and for the Lord using it as such an encouragement and blessing in my life.
Tree of Thankfulness
A couple of weeks ago Josiah and I took on a craft. We did a little each day for three days. The first day we printed out some leaves, I cut them (he tried to cut some..those got demolished, but at least he tried) and we colored them together. That took about 2 of the days. Then we talked about things we were thankful for. We want to teach Josiah to be grateful for things that he has and a perfect time to teach it is during the Thanksgiving season. He has also been extremely interested in the leaves around the neighborhood. Each day that we walk he has noticed them changing colors and falling without me telling him anything. He always asks me why and so I explain that we are changing seasons and leaves change colors and fall. He is so interested in it and I am proud of him for his awareness of the things that go on around him. He notices everything! On day two of making this Tree of Thankfulness (that is what we decided the name would be), after coloring the rest of the leaves we went on a little hunt around the neighborhood to find the perfect "tree" (aka branch made to look like a tree). We came home and finished our tree by punching holes in the leaves (Josiah loved doing this) and then we put strings on each leaf and hung it on our tree. I finished it up by putting it into a glass vase with some red glass balls in the bottom to weigh it down. This project was completely FREE and totally FUN!! Josiah will now point to his tree and ask what does the "lellow (or another color) leaf say mommy?" Here are some of the things that Josiah said he was thankful for:
*God
*Daddy
*Mommy
*Dakota and Sequoia
*our car
*Family (he started by naming them individually, but I talked him into just having one for everyone...we could quickly fill the tree with that one)
*Food (and then he wanted two separate ones for Grapes and Apples - lol...I guess according to him those do not fall under the food category)
*Toys
*Church
*Friends (and then he started naming his friends so we wrote those names on the one leaf)
*Water
And many more.
I hope to do something like this each year with him. It is important to teach your child gratefulness and this was a fun way to do it. Enjoy the pictures that I took of him after we completed our craft.
*God
*Daddy
*Mommy
*Dakota and Sequoia
*our car
*Family (he started by naming them individually, but I talked him into just having one for everyone...we could quickly fill the tree with that one)
*Food (and then he wanted two separate ones for Grapes and Apples - lol...I guess according to him those do not fall under the food category)
*Toys
*Church
*Friends (and then he started naming his friends so we wrote those names on the one leaf)
*Water
And many more.
Monday, November 7, 2011
Everything - Tim Hughes
God in my living
There in my breathing
God in my waking
God in my sleeping
God in my resting
There in my working
God in my thinking
God in my speaking
Be my everything
Be my everything
Be my everything
Be my everything
God in my hoping
There in my dreaming
God in my watching
God in my waiting
God in my laughing
There in my weeping
God in my hurting
God in my healing
Christ in me
Christ in me
Christ in me the hope of glory
You are everything
Christ in me
Christ in me
Christ in me the hope of glory
Be my everything
There in my breathing
God in my waking
God in my sleeping
God in my resting
There in my working
God in my thinking
God in my speaking
Be my everything
Be my everything
Be my everything
Be my everything
God in my hoping
There in my dreaming
God in my watching
God in my waiting
God in my laughing
There in my weeping
God in my hurting
God in my healing
Christ in me
Christ in me
Christ in me the hope of glory
You are everything
Christ in me
Christ in me
Christ in me the hope of glory
Be my everything
BE MY EVERYTHING...there is just something about this song that brings me to me knees probably more than any song I have heard. For some reason, I cannot get it out of my head. I planned on cleaning the bathrooms today while Josiah napped (I already chopped up the vegetables for dinner), but I felt the Lord/Holy Spirit wanting me to hear the song again. Josh would probably actually be impressed that I was able to google it and put the link on my blog without any help!
The first time I heard this song (the lyrics are above and I encourage you to read them) was in our church in Columbia. I remember liking it and enjoyed hearing and singing it. Yesterday we sang it again and for some reason I had tears in my eyes as the Holy Spirit was just tugging at my heart. Isn't it amazing how we can hear a song at one point in our lives and it doesn't mean much, but in another time/year of our lives mean so much? We have been talking about the Holy Spirit in church and with our small group and I know for a fact it was the Holy Spirit telling me and teaching me something. I want the Lord to be MY EVERYTHING...right down to the little things about my day. I want to have a heart for the Lord in everything I do (including things that seem silly for Him to be apart of - He wants to be apart of those things) every single day. I want HIM to be apart of my hopes, my dreams, the things I laugh about, cry about...just everything! As I wait for the Lord to show me things about my life, my future, my child and future children...I want Him to be my everything. I want Him to continue to show me how to be a wife and a mother! I have the best two people to be a wife and mother to! He knows what is best for everyone. He knows you better than you know yourself. He knows your strengths, your weaknesses and your desires. I pray that I will include God in my "everything."
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